Moments Like These…..
Okay, you can finish that title as the mood/situation fits. As for me, I’m having a mommy Calgon moment. For anyone old enough, Calgon became famous for it’s marketing tag “Take me away!” many years ago. Fitting that their website bears this title.
Silly me, I took the doctor’s advice from the last follow up visit for my daughter. She suggested that we try a few days at random without medication to see if it was really making a difference. Okay, either today is a REALLY bad day or clearly I’ve adjusted to the help from the medication. I’ve only been home with my 8 year old for about 40 minutes and I’m peeling myself (well, at least my emotions) off the walls. Today is a night and day experience from every other day so far.
I question everything about myself and my abilities when my patience is maxed like this. My 3 year old is tugging at my sleeve wanting me to see his latest block tower creation, the doorbell keeps ringing with neighbors wanting to play, and I’m trying to help a hollow box with homework - well, a hollow box on automated springs. I’ve yelled, threatened to take away privileges, and sworn early bed time more in the past 10 minutes than I have in the past 10 days.
I keep reminding myself of the steps and stages. We agreed to try medication to give our daughter a reference for what attention and focus were like. We know it’s a multi-step attack helping her navigate the waters of ADD. We’ve been watching the diet, keeping the routines alive, being her advocate at school and keeping in regular contact with her doctors and reading a ton about the disorder. No parent dreams of having their child suffer from any ailment but you do whatever it takes to help them. It’s like a knee-jerk reaction. You find yourself doing and dealing with things you never dreamt possible or that you could do. That’s just how it is.
She is improving and we are seeing that this piece of her academic puzzle is helping us identify others. BUT the process can be agonizing at best. You simply can’t explain how stressful a few minutes of homework and after school “rush” can be with a child diagnosed ADD. Suffice it to say I’m ready to be taken away right now.
I’ll come back to this topic and share more of my unique experience with my unique daughter when I’ve had a bubble bath and relaxed. But for now I have to take my frustration and target it somewhere else. Maybe I’m just hoping someone out there can relate and help me feel better about the moments as parents when you get white-knuckled.
p.s. Homework is finished, she’s out running off some energy with friends and I’m slowly recovering. Calgon - PLEASE - take me away!! LOL
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. Thanks for visiting–and commenting–today! I’ll be back when I can actually READ!
Comment by Robin (Pensieve) — September 21, 2006 @ 6:23 pm
ROFL - well, I’m glad to know others have to schedule that reading time too! LOL
Thanks for visiting!
Hugs,
Holly
Comment by holly.schwendiman — September 21, 2006 @ 6:29 pm
Yes, there is nothing worse than one Calgon moment right after another. It sounds like you’ve earned one bubble for each second of stress in your day. Just don’t let the tub overflow.
Comment by Kate — September 21, 2006 @ 9:15 pm
I know how you feel… it almost feels as if the day never ends when it’s one thing after another like that. I know what it’s like to be ADD however, I was never diagnosed at a young age. I was well into college when it, along with dyslexia was suggested by a teacher. You’re doing the best possible thing for her right now. Just remember that. I wish my mother knew about all these disorders when I was growing up and that wasn’t too long ago either!
I hope you get some time to relax soon!
Take care,
Vicky
Comment by Vicky — September 22, 2006 @ 5:34 am
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