In honor of husband’s week, I’m going to share today why marriage is like computers for me. It’s not a complete list for sure, but it’s a start!

You know it’s going to be a big change and that’s exciting.

• Fifteen years ago the windows operating system for computers and the use of a mouse for navigation were just coming into full swing and my courtship was bringing up marriage. We all know the impact of change on the computer world. Well my marriage and life since marriage is a mirror image.

You can’t comprehend all the possibilities and future, but the excitement propels you forward.

• You mean I can “see” what I’m doing and I’m not limited to a keyboard? I don’t have to know DOS to function? Wow! The parallel to my marriage: You mean I never have to be alone again? *smile* You mean I never have to be alone again? *hmmmm*. You mean I never have to date again? Yahoo!

Learning how to be a good spouse is like learning a new operating system.

• It doesn’t do everything automatically? It’s only the framework AND I have to learn how to use it to make it work? *ug* What do you mean if I don’t do it like that it won’t work?!! “@#$%^&”

Navigating marital decisions and issues requires the same deliberate precision demanded by the use of a mouse.

• Better make sure you have that mouse arrow exactly where you want it before you click and you darn well better know what the result will be before you do. Hmmm, I’ve had a few marital moments that fit the same description. *wink*

You begin with the bare bones.

• Just as it takes time and resources to add meaningful software to your computer, the same is required with marriage. You don’t start at the top, you build your way there.

With time and experience you learn what programs are worth investing in.

• And this often means trial and error. The trick is to keep at it.

You need frequent updates.

• There’s no such thing as one time investment. It’s constant work and updating to get the most out of it. And thank heavens or we’d still be using those crappy dot matrix printers with feed paper!

Just about the time you’ve mastered the ins and outs a change will come.

• Change is the only constant.

There will be days when you love it and it’s your best friend and others when you want to strangle it.

• ‘Nuff said.

The tiniest omissions mess things up.

• Just leave a quotation or end command off something in your blog and watch things get broken or messed up. Similarly, it is often the little things like saying thank you, I love you, I need you, that when missed have the ability to make or break the relationship.

What you get out of it depends completely on what you put into it.

• When I got married I’d never used a mouse. Today I’m blogging, web designing, desktop publishing and more. My life is infinitely richer for my willingness to dig in and learn new things. My marriage isn’t any different. You get what you give.

So what comparisons can you make?

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