Comments on: Measuring Sticks & Distractions

By: Holly’s Corner Blog » Secrets Of A Happy Marriage

Holly’s Corner Blog » Secrets Of A Happy Marriage — Mon, 19 Feb 2007 17:00:29 +0000

[...] The biggest mistake I think people make is to assume that there is a point where things are safe and secure - finished, so to speak. The mentality of “Now that I’ve got my man (or woman), I don’t have to (fill in the blank) anymore.” Whether it’s as simple as no longer trying to look, dress or smell nice or as big as letting yourself go physically so as to become unrecognizable to the person in the marriage photo, this very mentality is a sure way to displace the very security you think you’ve achieved. And on a deeper note, just because you worked through something once doesn’t mean you’ve mastered it and never have to worry about it again. You don’t master personality traits and characteristics, you develop them. That means continual action, attention and effort. There is no check box for completion in the marriage or relationship to do list, there is only progress to be measured over periods of time. Every aspect be it physical, emotional, spiritual, intellectual, psychological, etc., etc., etc. never dies, it is alive and dynamic - thus it is never done. [...]

By: Mary (Mert)

Mary (Mert) — Wed, 31 Jan 2007 20:03:43 +0000

You know? I have that same mentality… if it’s not done then I failed. Thanks for sharing this, I really mean it. I feel better about only getting half of the laundry folded.

Yay! That’s what it’s all about. ;o)

By: tiggerprr

tiggerprr — Wed, 31 Jan 2007 14:49:16 +0000

This is a great post, as usual. Those little “Why did I come here?” memory step retracings are becoming more frequent for me as well. It’s sort of disturbing, because you’re right, sometimes I just have to drop it because nothing jogs the old melon. I’ve taken to keeping a tiny notebook with me all the time, if only I could remember to write things down in it more often. LOL

ROFL - sure signs of old age. Now what was I going to do this morning?

By: Local Girl

Local Girl — Wed, 31 Jan 2007 07:02:44 +0000

My daughter goes insane whenever I’m on the phone. I have no idea why. However, when I’m blogging, she usually leaves me alone.

Yeah, what’s up with that? No wonder I spend so much time on the computer and less on the phone! LOL Now if I could just get everyone to use chat and e-mail instead….LOL

By: Laura Bybee

Laura Bybee — Wed, 31 Jan 2007 00:57:59 +0000

Speaking as one who was there in 5th grade…..

I don’t remember his hair stinking.

Sorry! It’s just so much fun to tease about his childhood!!!!

Tee hee.

By: EdReif

EdReif — Wed, 31 Jan 2007 00:53:13 +0000

“It’s never done.” –Yea.. not a destination Enjoy the process..

Great post!
Hugs
ER

Thanks Ed. ‘Tis true although I do wish you could have a few moments of reprieve sometimes but alas it is about the journey. ;o)

By: Vicky

Vicky — Tue, 30 Jan 2007 18:44:11 +0000

::sigh:: It’s definitely never done! Like feeding a child…. you do it, then 1.5hrs later… time to do it again. ;o) Seriously though, it is hard realizing that people will never truely be able to say “I don’t have anything to do,” because they’d be lying if they said it.

Here’s my new blog:

http://impairedfunctioning.blogspot.com/

Amen to that! I’m excited to check out the new blog. How’s life with two treating you? (besides the endless feedings!)