Comments on: In Search of Decorum http://www.hollyscorner.com/blog/2008/01/28/in-search-of-decorum/ Make it a masterpiece. Sun, 14 Mar 2010 23:09:45 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: Lisa http://www.hollyscorner.com/blog/2008/01/28/in-search-of-decorum/comment-page-1/#comment-62548 Lisa Wed, 30 Jan 2008 23:33:55 +0000 http://www.hollyscorner.com/blog/2008/01/28/in-search-of-decorum/#comment-62548 Our Stake Pres's wife received a cell phone call during the closing prayer at our last Stake conference. She took it too! This was after 3 other cell phones had rung during that meeting. After the first ring, I grabbed mine to make sure it was off (it was) and so did my husband. This went a long way making it more difficult to convince our young men/women that phone calls can wait until after church. By the way, all of her children are in our stake, and all of them were there that day. It may have been an emergency, but that is why the "vibrate" mode was invented! Some time ago I had my nieces and nephew at the mall and while we paid, Nephew started to climb onto the counter. I stopped him and told him it wasn't a jungle gym, then I said, "Sorry" to the clerk. She said I shouldn't apologize and that most people wouldn't have stopped him from climbing up there and being rude. I think people get embarrassed to discipline their children in public (airplanes, restaurants, mall, etc.) and so they don't and the kid gets the message that bad behaviour in public is OK. <strong>I don't understand why people can't leave their cell phones at home for the 2-3 hours they are in church service meetings. I actually had a clerk thank me once for telling my 3 year to look with her eyes not her hands saying she hadn't heard that since she was child.</strong> Our Stake Pres’s wife received a cell phone call during the closing prayer at our last Stake conference. She took it too! This was after 3 other cell phones had rung during that meeting. After the first ring, I grabbed mine to make sure it was off (it was) and so did my husband. This went a long way making it more difficult to convince our young men/women that phone calls can wait until after church. By the way, all of her children are in our stake, and all of them were there that day. It may have been an emergency, but that is why the “vibrate” mode was invented!

Some time ago I had my nieces and nephew at the mall and while we paid, Nephew started to climb onto the counter. I stopped him and told him it wasn’t a jungle gym, then I said, “Sorry” to the clerk. She said I shouldn’t apologize and that most people wouldn’t have stopped him from climbing up there and being rude. I think people get embarrassed to discipline their children in public (airplanes, restaurants, mall, etc.) and so they don’t and the kid gets the message that bad behaviour in public is OK.

I don’t understand why people can’t leave their cell phones at home for the 2-3 hours they are in church service meetings. I actually had a clerk thank me once for telling my 3 year to look with her eyes not her hands saying she hadn’t heard that since she was child.

]]> By: Jennifer M http://www.hollyscorner.com/blog/2008/01/28/in-search-of-decorum/comment-page-1/#comment-62381 Jennifer M Tue, 29 Jan 2008 16:15:03 +0000 http://www.hollyscorner.com/blog/2008/01/28/in-search-of-decorum/#comment-62381 I saw this so much while I was working in YW. So many of the YW didn't have any respect for the time or effort that was taken to plan activities or prepare lessons. They would talk to each other, text, etc. I wish there was some way to help them see the kind of impression they leave when they are so oblivious of their rudeness. The saddest thing for me is that I don't know if I'm getting through to my own kids on these issues. Not sure how to do that. <strong>Well, the fact that you're trying is critical. I think most parents aren't even attempting to teach their kids manners anymore or common courtesy. I know the world revolves around teens but it saddens me all the time to see how disrespectful they are - not even in a mean way just careless and ignorant.</strong> I saw this so much while I was working in YW. So many of the YW didn’t have any respect for the time or effort that was taken to plan activities or prepare lessons. They would talk to each other, text, etc. I wish there was some way to help them see the kind of impression they leave when they are so oblivious of their rudeness. The saddest thing for me is that I don’t know if I’m getting through to my own kids on these issues. Not sure how to do that.

Well, the fact that you’re trying is critical. I think most parents aren’t even attempting to teach their kids manners anymore or common courtesy. I know the world revolves around teens but it saddens me all the time to see how disrespectful they are - not even in a mean way just careless and ignorant.

]]> By: Carmen http://www.hollyscorner.com/blog/2008/01/28/in-search-of-decorum/comment-page-1/#comment-62378 Carmen Tue, 29 Jan 2008 15:50:27 +0000 http://www.hollyscorner.com/blog/2008/01/28/in-search-of-decorum/#comment-62378 We had that same discussion when we got home Sunday night. there is a time and place for everything... The pulpit, at a spiritual meeting, is a sacrade place... In fact everything that start with a prayer becames sacred. Hugs Carmen <strong>Our kids are missing the meaning of sacred these days, some days it seems nothing is reverenced at all any more.</strong> We had that same discussion when we got home Sunday night. there is a time and place for everything… The pulpit, at a spiritual meeting, is a sacrade place… In fact everything that start with a prayer becames sacred.
Hugs
Carmen

Our kids are missing the meaning of sacred these days, some days it seems nothing is reverenced at all any more.

]]> By: kailani http://www.hollyscorner.com/blog/2008/01/28/in-search-of-decorum/comment-page-1/#comment-62301 kailani Tue, 29 Jan 2008 07:54:36 +0000 http://www.hollyscorner.com/blog/2008/01/28/in-search-of-decorum/#comment-62301 I see this on the plane all the time. A lot of children are just not taught to say please and thank you anymore. When I do come across a polite child, I am so shocked. It should be the other way around. <strong>I agree - it SHOULD be the other way around!</strong> I see this on the plane all the time. A lot of children are just not taught to say please and thank you anymore. When I do come across a polite child, I am so shocked. It should be the other way around.

I agree - it SHOULD be the other way around!

]]> By: Daddy Forever http://www.hollyscorner.com/blog/2008/01/28/in-search-of-decorum/comment-page-1/#comment-62274 Daddy Forever Tue, 29 Jan 2008 05:44:20 +0000 http://www.hollyscorner.com/blog/2008/01/28/in-search-of-decorum/#comment-62274 It's much worse than you think. When I was a kid, we let the senior citizens have our seats. Now the bad elements rob them when they get off the bus. What is wrong with our society? <strong>It breaks your heart doesn't it?</strong> It’s much worse than you think. When I was a kid, we let the senior citizens have our seats. Now the bad elements rob them when they get off the bus. What is wrong with our society?

It breaks your heart doesn’t it?

]]> By: Jamie http://www.hollyscorner.com/blog/2008/01/28/in-search-of-decorum/comment-page-1/#comment-62217 Jamie Mon, 28 Jan 2008 23:18:05 +0000 http://www.hollyscorner.com/blog/2008/01/28/in-search-of-decorum/#comment-62217 OK I cannot even handle it when people talk on the phone while shopping, but texting during prayer!? We went to a beautiful state park last May and went on a small hike down to a waterfall. I was completely irritated with someone who insisted on TALKING ON THEIR CELL PHONE during the nature walk down to the falls. I mean obviously this was a life or death conversation. ;) I think we are in a sound byte, instant gratification sort of society and I don't really know the solution, but it definitely begins with the adults in a household and so many, unfortunately, act like kids themselves. So much is lost by not teaching decorum and just common sense and common courtesy, etiquette, etc. It's almost as if pop culture is the overriding book of etiquette these days, and that's pretty frightening. I agree Holly! <strong>Thanks for the support! It really makes me crazy sometimes.</strong> OK I cannot even handle it when people talk on the phone while shopping, but texting during prayer!?

We went to a beautiful state park last May and went on a small hike down to a waterfall. I was completely irritated with someone who insisted on TALKING ON THEIR CELL PHONE during the nature walk down to the falls. I mean obviously this was a life or death conversation. ;)

I think we are in a sound byte, instant gratification sort of society and I don’t really know the solution, but it definitely begins with the adults in a household and so many, unfortunately, act like kids themselves. So much is lost by not teaching decorum and just common sense and common courtesy, etiquette, etc. It’s almost as if pop culture is the overriding book of etiquette these days, and that’s pretty frightening.

I agree Holly!

Thanks for the support! It really makes me crazy sometimes.

]]> By: Sister Snoopy http://www.hollyscorner.com/blog/2008/01/28/in-search-of-decorum/comment-page-1/#comment-62215 Sister Snoopy Mon, 28 Jan 2008 23:08:16 +0000 http://www.hollyscorner.com/blog/2008/01/28/in-search-of-decorum/#comment-62215 Texting? During a prayer? Sheesh!!! <strong>Crazy hugh?</strong> Texting? During a prayer?

Sheesh!!!

Crazy hugh?

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